Hopes in Life

English versus Intelligence  NOTE: This article is for the students whose first language is not English but suffering for not being good at it. Do you feel bad😞 or inferior just because you are not good at communicating in English?   If  "YES" ,you are on right place because here, someone is present who can understand your situation and help you☺️ . Because you are not the only one to face this problem. There are a number of students who feel inferior just because they are weak at English although they are very talented. It has become a serious issue for the students. Here are the ways you can overcome your  inferiority   and gain  confidence  : I'm intelligent, no matter I am good at English or not  Accept that you are not less  intelligent  than anyone else. Because you have acquired at least one language. Therefore, you have the same ability to learn language.  Try to understand that English is just...

A Helping Hand  Do you remember being helped by someone in your life? Your answer will be  "YES" . How did you feel? Good? Grateful?  Would you like to help someone in your life?  If your answer is  "YES"  ,you have realized a great  virtue  of being human. You are grateful for all the help you got in your life. When we were born, we were not even able to survive. Our parents "helped "us👪 A helping hand  to grow and survive. Why we all are engaged in  helping behavior  ? The answer is: No achievement can give us such a satisfaction that we get from helping others.  It increases our self -worth that we are able to make a positive change in the lives of others. I would like to share some personal things about helping behavior. I'm an introvert having only a few number of friends.  But people around me, trust me and share their problems with me because they know I'll listen to them, understand them a...

3D's for "Success"(dream, dare, determination)  Hello friends! I know what have come to your mind reading this. No I'm not talking about that. Today I'll describe you the 3Ds for success. They are : 3D's for success  Dream  Dare  Determination  👉 Dream   is important because it gives us a direction.  It tells us about what we want to achieve in life. Where we should put our efforts. And why we want to get that. It will lead to  self awareness   and gives us the purpose of life. Otherwise we just pass the time, nothing else.  Dare   is one of the essential resources to convert our dream into reality.  Whenever we take a first step towards our goal, we are taking a risk, there is always a chance of failure. If have to be ready to tolerate the frustration ,tonts made by others, people laughing at us, and feeling of  rejection   we have to face in our way. And for this you need a fearless...

Who should be our "Role Model"? We all talk about our ideal or " Role Model  ".But there are some questions like....  Who should be viewed as our role model?  Is it necessary or helpful to make a role model?  I think "Yes".Having a role model really helps us in growing. But the most difficult problem to solve is given in the first question.  No-one is  perfect  . Of course, there are people who can inspire us but in specific areas or aspect of life. What about the other aspects of life? In this way, you need a separate role model for each aspect of life which is going to be the most confusing and time consuming process. You yourself will forget which role model was for which area!😂 Moreover, No two individuals are same in any way whether it is talent, environmental conditions, availability of resources,  personality   and so on.... May be you have the same area of interest with your role model but everything cannot ...

You're a Genius  You're a Genius  Your ultimate goal is to explore  Your world and your role Ya! You're the one who can never be defeated  It's your way you can easily seek it  Oh! Let me tell you once again I repeat it  You're a Genius  O yeh!  You're a Genius  ❤❤❤  No matter...  What you are, what you were  What you wanted to be  No matter...  How many times have you failed  How many times have you succeed  Just leave it all ,keep it all away  And see that all what's waiting for you today  You're a Genius  O yeh!  You're a Genius  ❤❤❤ It's better... Move on towards your goal  And just dare and dream  It's better...  Evaluate your strengths and  Improve them to the extreme  Forget everything that makes you feel low  And get ready to just shine and glow  You're a Genius  ...

A Psychology Class  A Psychology Class  When you go to a Psychology class  From there, your journey starts  Sensory inputs start coming  "Perception "when you give it meaning  Processing is done in your mind  Then you can easily recognize  What you have learned so far  Can answer when questions are asked  Your mind starts exercise  When you store everything precise It is actually a mission  To improve your cognition  It has an effect  Also on your "Affect" It makes you happy  Working like a therapy  Then, accordingly you act  All the three are attached  Cognitive, Affective and Connative  Together make your behavior  All your Well-being is there...  My another blog : mymotive1.blogspot.com

Now a days...  We all are so busy that we are shrinking in ourselves. We feel that we need nobody.We have mobile, money, computer, technique, many friends and followers on  social media  through which we can entertain us, Make us happy.The conclusion we draw is that we need nobody.  Do you really feel that you need nobody?  Don't you want to share your  happiness   when you achieve something?  Don't you need someone to motivate you when you feel low?  Some people will "Not at all ".But they will get nervous saying or thinking this which means that they too know inside that they are telling a lie. You can't deny the need of a "shoulder to cry on ".Please try to be honest with yourself at least.  A shoulder to cry on  A Shoulder to Cry On  We all face adversities😖 in life. We all cry :some people let you see their tears, some cry when they are alone and some will cry inside without letting anybody know...

Tendency to Trust  How often  has it happened that you trusted someone and your  trust  was not kept😖? What was the impact of that on your mind ?Would you able to trust that person again? Or someone else?  There are two situations : Trusting the same person,  Trusting a new person.  Trusting the same person will be difficult for you as your past memories won't let you do it.  May be that person doesn't want to deceive you but how can you be sure about it? You can  forgive  the person but can't forget your past. What you can learn from this, two things : Tendency to trust and forgive  When you forgive a person, it will  heal   you... That pain of  deception   and if you will keep rendering on the past means you are not allowing the positive things to happen in your life. If you can't forget your past,😢 it will hurt "You",not someone else.  Think before what you do. Things ...

Who make us feel like a "Failure"? Failure    is something we all talk about. But what exactly do you think failure is? Try to answer some questions : When we feel like a failure  Do you think failure is" not achieving a goal "? When you are not able to achieve your  goals , do you experience the same level of frustration? If "NO",why?  What are the factors which Make you feel that you are a failure?  Everyone will define the term "failure "subjectively, but one thing will be common :Not reaching to the desired goal. But we not always feel the same kind of failure. The factors that can affect the level of  frustration  we feel may be as given below : How important the goal was,  Negative consequences of not achieving the goal, Positive results on achieving the goal,  Feedbacks   from society.  The last factor is the strongest to make us feel a "failure". Who make us feel like a failure?  W...

Why You are not "You"? Do you know yourself?  Do people know you in the same way as you know yourself? Do you live your life as you want to live?  The first question   will be answered in "yes",almost by everyone, though nobody will realize that s/he is telling a lie. I'm not blaming you for this. We know ourselves to the extent we try to know. And we all know how much time we have for this in a busy life.  The second question  will be answered in "No" by almost of the people. One possible reason will be given that nobody is able to understand you. The second one, you feel proud on the way you can make fool of people (many people think so and feel happy about it; though they are not aware weather they are making a fool of people, of themselves, or are being made fool by people; that's another issue),so-called smartness you think. The third option is that you don't have the communication skills to convey to the people what kind of ...

A Story of "Come Back" Do you have the guts to keep your dream alive even when all the ways have been closed suddenly?  How long? Days? Months? Years?  Let me tell you a real life story of an Indian girl who fought for her dream for nine years and still continuing... Nisha Sharma  Nisha Sharma was born on October 16,1988 in a small Indian village named Ismailpur, in Jhajjar district of Haryana. She belonged to a middle class small family with her parents and a brother three years smaller than her. Everything was fine but his brother was mentally retarded due to the frequent seizures.The whole family had to pay a lot of attention to him. In this way,she had to play a parental role too. Her childhood was not happy. But she was a brave, obedient and intelligent girl,performing well in her studies. She used to stand first in her class. After eighth class, she started going to a neighbor village named Frukhnagar, on a distance about a few kilometers on cycle. ...

Break the "Walls" What you mean by a wall? Do you feel that you are surrounded by the walls around you?  What kind of walls are these?  Do you have the dare to break them?  When we talk about the walls, there are some characteristics that come to your mind like walls are hard, not easy to break, you cannot see anything across the walls, and so on. You may feel impatient to know why I'm talking about the "Wallls". Break the walls:Start with a Zero We all have made many walls around us, in our mind.They are the walls like prejudices and  stereotypes  about some caste, religion, gender, race, a particular culture. They are very hard to break. We can't see across them which means we are not ready to accept the positive in the person,  culture ,  religion  etc. about which we have made a mental set negatively. These walls narrow our minds; we burry all our natural goodness,curiosity,courage and  humanity   under these ...

When you love...  "Love" is such a topic we all are interested in.Why? Have you ever thought about it? What is your position on love? What is it?  When you love...  Take a notebook. Now write down everything about love; it's characteristics, benefits, everything you can write as nobody is going to read it. Now observe carefully how much it matches with the concept you have learned from the mass media. The concept of love is being distorted by the media for getting benefits. The re are so many myths regarding love.  Myths about love Love at first sight : When you talk about "love at first sight ",you are narrowing the meaning of love. You are talking about the outer beauty of a person which has nothing to do with the goodness of a person. It's so funny that if you see a beautiful statue standing on the road, you fall in love with it. That is all this myth is about. You love a person for his or her uniqueness,for his being as s/he is. You...

They too Love...  Do you like animals?  What do you think about them?  Do you have any experience with the animals that you can't forget?  Well, animals are like us, at least in some way. They too feel emotions. I have two experiences to share with you right now.  They too Love When I was about five, I visited my village. For a child who lived in city, a village is an interesting and exciting place visit. I loved it; to wander in farms, beneath open sky, peace, chirping and flight of birds, sunrise and sunset,pure breeze, climbing on trees (I only tried) and plucking fresh fruits, to sit on the bank of canal dipping legs in the water, to observe the frogs in the well, bathing in tubewell water (quite chilled) and the list goes on....  Case 1 We stayed there at my uncle's home. He had a cow for milk with its newborn calf. I used to call it "munnu".It was very cute, I loved it. I used to touch it, quite soft and furry. I used to feed it ...

The Shining Pearls  The Shining Pearls  Everywhere I look at the world  I find her shining like a pearl  No-one else but every girl  She wants to come forward Yes,of course I heard  She will show you a new face Of the world in each case She is ready to win the race She wants to fly very high  Yes, of course also in the sky  She is developing the nation  Fulfilling all the expectations  Forsaking all the hesitation  She  has the dare to show Yes, of course she can grow... My another blog : mymotive1.blogspot.com  

Adopt Yourself  We often blame the others for our misery. But think honestly... Do you really feel someone is so powerful 💪💪that he or she can change your life without your permission. Well, I don't think so.  Assume for a minute that someone is really powerful but what about you? You are equally powerful. Other people affect your life because you let them do it. The moment you refuse to be affected, nobody has the dare to drive you. What is the use of talking all this? Of course, it is the most important thing for you to recognize that this thinking is the biggest cause of all your miseries. I mean you are leaving yourself for others to decide when you should be happy, when you should be sad and so on.... The list goes on. I have found a way to get rid of it, that is " ADOPT  YOURSELF"👪 Adopt yourself  .The term refers to the point that you should take your own  responsibility   as if  you are your own parents. We all behav...

The Worst Factor  It's our tendency to keep complaining about all the things in life😞 which cause us to work hard or struggle a lot.😓 We use a large amounts of energy in finding the factors which we feel are not good for us as we think. We feel that life would be quite perfect if those factors are removed. Sometimes we even able to catch a single factor which we can call "THE WORST FACTOR ".Now you must be thinking.... YES!💁 It's true because you have recognized that factor in your life. But wait a minute! You need to reevaluate your thinking pattern. It's not so bad as we keep cursing it all the time. If we observe the lives of great people, it will become clear that this "Worst Factor " lead them to become great in their lives. They wanted to get rid of it. In order to do so, they stretched themselves 😌to their extreme limits and thus improving themselves day by day. It is just like a torch which throw light on the area or the chance...

Who is Beautiful?  Are you beautiful?....If yes, good 👍....If "no".....Then who else you think is beautiful? Why are you so much concerned about the issue of beauty? Now try to answer some more questions.....  How do you feel when you look into the mirror?  Do you feel good and a cute smile come on your face?  How  you feel when you see a beautiful /handsome person?  Do you still feel as good as you feel when you see yourself in the mirror?  I'm sure you feel better when you see yourself. When you see the other person as beautiful, your reaction may be "WOW"😮.But when you see yourself, it gives you immense pleasure.... You leave no chance of looking at you in the mirror.... On a mobile screen, on a glass window of a passing car, and so on.... Means you feel the happiest 😊when you see yourself.  It shows that you are the most beautiful person of the world. If it is not so, then why do you want to see yourself? Because nobody wi...