Hopes in Life

English versus Intelligence  NOTE: This article is for the students whose first language is not English but suffering for not being good at it. Do you feel bad😞 or inferior just because you are not good at communicating in English?   If  "YES" ,you are on right place because here, someone is present who can understand your situation and help you☺️ . Because you are not the only one to face this problem. There are a number of students who feel inferior just because they are weak at English although they are very talented. It has become a serious issue for the students. Here are the ways you can overcome your  inferiority   and gain  confidence  : I'm intelligent, no matter I am good at English or not  Accept that you are not less  intelligent  than anyone else. Because you have acquired at least one language. Therefore, you have the same ability to learn language.  Try to understand that English is just...

3D's for "Success"(dream, dare, determination)  Hello friends! I know what have come to your mind reading this. No I'm not talking about that. Today I'll describe you the 3Ds for success. They are : 3D's for success  Dream  Dare  Determination  👉 Dream   is important because it gives us a direction.  It tells us about what we want to achieve in life. Where we should put our efforts. And why we want to get that. It will lead to  self awareness   and gives us the purpose of life. Otherwise we just pass the time, nothing else.  Dare   is one of the essential resources to convert our dream into reality.  Whenever we take a first step towards our goal, we are taking a risk, there is always a chance of failure. If have to be ready to tolerate the frustration ,tonts made by others, people laughing at us, and feeling of  rejection   we have to face in our way. And for this you need a fearless...

Who should be our "Role Model"? We all talk about our ideal or " Role Model  ".But there are some questions like....  Who should be viewed as our role model?  Is it necessary or helpful to make a role model?  I think "Yes".Having a role model really helps us in growing. But the most difficult problem to solve is given in the first question.  No-one is  perfect  . Of course, there are people who can inspire us but in specific areas or aspect of life. What about the other aspects of life? In this way, you need a separate role model for each aspect of life which is going to be the most confusing and time consuming process. You yourself will forget which role model was for which area!😂 Moreover, No two individuals are same in any way whether it is talent, environmental conditions, availability of resources,  personality   and so on.... May be you have the same area of interest with your role model but everything cannot ...

Tendency to Trust  How often  has it happened that you trusted someone and your  trust  was not kept😖? What was the impact of that on your mind ?Would you able to trust that person again? Or someone else?  There are two situations : Trusting the same person,  Trusting a new person.  Trusting the same person will be difficult for you as your past memories won't let you do it.  May be that person doesn't want to deceive you but how can you be sure about it? You can  forgive  the person but can't forget your past. What you can learn from this, two things : Tendency to trust and forgive  When you forgive a person, it will  heal   you... That pain of  deception   and if you will keep rendering on the past means you are not allowing the positive things to happen in your life. If you can't forget your past,😢 it will hurt "You",not someone else.  Think before what you do. Things ...

Who make us feel like a "Failure"? Failure    is something we all talk about. But what exactly do you think failure is? Try to answer some questions : When we feel like a failure  Do you think failure is" not achieving a goal "? When you are not able to achieve your  goals , do you experience the same level of frustration? If "NO",why?  What are the factors which Make you feel that you are a failure?  Everyone will define the term "failure "subjectively, but one thing will be common :Not reaching to the desired goal. But we not always feel the same kind of failure. The factors that can affect the level of  frustration  we feel may be as given below : How important the goal was,  Negative consequences of not achieving the goal, Positive results on achieving the goal,  Feedbacks   from society.  The last factor is the strongest to make us feel a "failure". Who make us feel like a failure?  W...

Break the "Walls" What you mean by a wall? Do you feel that you are surrounded by the walls around you?  What kind of walls are these?  Do you have the dare to break them?  When we talk about the walls, there are some characteristics that come to your mind like walls are hard, not easy to break, you cannot see anything across the walls, and so on. You may feel impatient to know why I'm talking about the "Wallls". Break the walls:Start with a Zero We all have made many walls around us, in our mind.They are the walls like prejudices and  stereotypes  about some caste, religion, gender, race, a particular culture. They are very hard to break. We can't see across them which means we are not ready to accept the positive in the person,  culture ,  religion  etc. about which we have made a mental set negatively. These walls narrow our minds; we burry all our natural goodness,curiosity,courage and  humanity   under these ...

Adopt Yourself  We often blame the others for our misery. But think honestly... Do you really feel someone is so powerful 💪💪that he or she can change your life without your permission. Well, I don't think so.  Assume for a minute that someone is really powerful but what about you? You are equally powerful. Other people affect your life because you let them do it. The moment you refuse to be affected, nobody has the dare to drive you. What is the use of talking all this? Of course, it is the most important thing for you to recognize that this thinking is the biggest cause of all your miseries. I mean you are leaving yourself for others to decide when you should be happy, when you should be sad and so on.... The list goes on. I have found a way to get rid of it, that is " ADOPT  YOURSELF"👪 Adopt yourself  .The term refers to the point that you should take your own  responsibility   as if  you are your own parents. We all behav...

The Worst Factor  It's our tendency to keep complaining about all the things in life😞 which cause us to work hard or struggle a lot.😓 We use a large amounts of energy in finding the factors which we feel are not good for us as we think. We feel that life would be quite perfect if those factors are removed. Sometimes we even able to catch a single factor which we can call "THE WORST FACTOR ".Now you must be thinking.... YES!💁 It's true because you have recognized that factor in your life. But wait a minute! You need to reevaluate your thinking pattern. It's not so bad as we keep cursing it all the time. If we observe the lives of great people, it will become clear that this "Worst Factor " lead them to become great in their lives. They wanted to get rid of it. In order to do so, they stretched themselves 😌to their extreme limits and thus improving themselves day by day. It is just like a torch which throw light on the area or the chance...

Who is Beautiful?  Are you beautiful?....If yes, good 👍....If "no".....Then who else you think is beautiful? Why are you so much concerned about the issue of beauty? Now try to answer some more questions.....  How do you feel when you look into the mirror?  Do you feel good and a cute smile come on your face?  How  you feel when you see a beautiful /handsome person?  Do you still feel as good as you feel when you see yourself in the mirror?  I'm sure you feel better when you see yourself. When you see the other person as beautiful, your reaction may be "WOW"😮.But when you see yourself, it gives you immense pleasure.... You leave no chance of looking at you in the mirror.... On a mobile screen, on a glass window of a passing car, and so on.... Means you feel the happiest 😊when you see yourself.  It shows that you are the most beautiful person of the world. If it is not so, then why do you want to see yourself? Because nobody wi...

Excuse versus Act  Whatever situation you face in your life, you always have two options : To make an excuse  To act upon the situation  If you choose the first option,  you are going to deceive yourself. But as you know "Practice makes a man perfect ",you will be an expert in making excuses, you'll be famous in this field " Superb Excuse Maker 😂 " An excuse maker  .Sound good? Well, the result will be that nobody will trust you because all are aware about your expertise. They know that you use your energy in making excuses. Remember, this is the same energy that you could use in doing your work. They know some facts about you : You are not going to work hard . After being failed, you make an excellent excuse.  You won't accept that it's an excuse.  Therefore, this way leads to  destroy yourself.  If you choose the second option,  "Congratulations! 👏👏"And hurry up! Taking an action  Because you h...